Here are some basic tips to find a boyfriend, girlfriend, or just someone to date.
- The number one rule is: You are not interested unless they are.
- Do not EVER think you will grow on someone – fungus Grows, not attraction.
- Act as if you will get what you want.
- Walk like you already have a secret lover who covers you in kisses every opportunity she/he gets
- Lead the conversation with authentic compliments.
- State the obvious, like: You have a great laugh; or Your eyes are so blue.
- Don't unload your entire personal history as sign of interest. This is too much for any one person to hear except your therapist.
- Spare people your sob stories unless you want sympathy instead of attraction.
- Never date someone who doesn't ask you any thoughtful questions.
- Just like a bad car deal, if it doesn't feel right—walk away.
- Scarcity is a bad bargaining tool so make sure you have plenty of options for meaningful activities at all times.
- Become the person you would want to date in terms of interests, health habits, generosity, financial security, vitality, and kindness (instead of looking for someone to fill in the gaps).
Dr. Jen
"Walk like you already have a secret lover who covers you in kisses every opportunity she/he gets"
ReplyDeleteI love that one! Must remember it more often ;)